Working with Dad

lbenjell • June 21, 2021

How having a team is always a good idea

Written by: Lamis Benjelloun

I often get to work with moms.  They are the ones who bear the brunt of the sleep issues that their babies are experiencing and they are the ones that feel the need to make a change.  And when I hear from their supporting spouses, they are usually and understandably apprehensive but also very concerned about helping both their baby and their spouse get more sleep.  But from time to time, I get a father who is super involved and dead set on bringing sleep changes to their home.  In the last couple of years, I have watched numerous families make significant changes to their life by bringing healthy sleep habits to their babies, but here is how working with an involved dad looks different:

Four ears are better than two

Having a team of two, mom and dad, is not always possible but usually makes the process easier than working solo.  First of all, when both parents attend the consultation, there is a deeper understanding of the process and plan.  This idea is kind of self evident as whatever mom may miss or misunderstand, dad can get and vice versa.

Less risk of sabotage

When everybody is on the same page, both parents are working towards the same goal that they have set together.  They agree on the plan together, understand the challenges they may face and have a common goal to work for.  This not only holds them accountable to one another, it increases the chances of success.  When both mom and dad agree, there is less chance that one parent will undermine or sabotage the hard work that the other parent it doing.

Support system

Let’s be honest here, sleep training is hard.  In fact, making any changes to your routine with baby is hard.  There will be many victories along the way but there will also be many difficult times and many moments of doubt.  Working as a team, you can support each other through it all.  You can celebrate together.  You can also help each other when things are hard and remind each other of why you are doing all of this.

And sometimes, babe sleeps better when dad does bedtime…

There! I said it! Babes, especially breastfed ones, generally sleep better when dad does bedtime. I believe the “secret” that everyone knows here is that dads can’t breastfeed.  You know it, I know it, dad knows it, and most importantly BABY knows it.  And this can work to your advantage!  When baby wakes up to nurse, mom can breastfeed and then had over to dad to settle them back to sleep.  This helps immensely when you are either trying to prevent any sleep associations or trying to eliminate them.

I have come across enough families to understand that it is not always easy or even possible to have both mom and dad be involved at bedtime.  But when it is possible, having a team does have its advantages.  What does bedtime look like in your family?

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Parents may find themselves more prone to mood swings and emotional instability, impacting their ability to nurture a positive environment for their children. Strained Relationships : Sleep deprivation can strain relationships, leading to conflicts and communication breakdowns between partners. This can create additional stressors, further exacerbating mental health challenges. Sleep and Child Mental Health Just as sleep is crucial for parental well-being, it's equally essential for children's mental health and development. Adequate sleep is associated with numerous benefits for children, including: Emotional Regulation : Sufficient sleep plays a vital role in emotional regulation, helping children manage their feelings and behaviors effectively. Children who get enough sleep are often more resilient to stress and less prone to mood disturbances. Cognitive Development : Sleep is essential for cognitive development in children, as it supports learning, memory consolidation, and problem-solving skills. A well-rested child is better equipped to succeed academically and socially. Behavioral Health : Sleep disturbances in children are closely linked to behavioral problems such as hyperactivity, impulsivity, and aggression. Establishing healthy sleep habits early on can significantly reduce the risk of such issues. Reduced Risk of Mental Health Disorders : Research suggests that inadequate sleep during childhood is associated with an increased risk of mental health disorders later in life, including anxiety, depression, and ADHD. Strategies for Promoting Healthy Sleep Given the critical role of sleep in mental health for both parents and children, it's essential to prioritize sleep hygiene and establish healthy sleep habits. Here are some strategies to promote better sleep: Consistent Bedtime Routine: Establish a consistent bedtime routine for both parents and children. A calming bedtime routine signals to the body that it's time to wind down and prepare for sleep. Create a Sleep-Conducive Environment: Ensure that the bedroom environment is conducive to sleep . This includes keeping the room dark, quiet, and at a comfortable temperature. Limit Screen Time: Minimize screen time, especially before bedtime, as exposure to screens can interfere with melatonin production and disrupt sleep patterns. Encourage Physical Activity: Regular physical activity during the day can promote better sleep at night. Encourage children to engage in active play and ensure that parents incorporate exercise into their daily routine as well. Healthy Sleep Associations: Help children develop healthy sleep associations by associating bedtime with soothing activities such as reading or gentle music. Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Teach children and parents relaxation techniques such as deep breathing exercises or guided imagery to promote relaxation and stress relief before bedtime. Seek Professional Help When Needed: If sleep problems persist despite implementing these strategies, seek guidance from a healthcare professional or sleep specialist. You can always schedule a discovery call with me to discuss whether working with me will help your little one get a better night sleep. For parents and children alike, prioritizing sleep is essential for maintaining emotional well-being, cognitive function, and overall health. By recognizing the importance of sleep and implementing strategies to promote healthy sleep habits, parents can nurture a positive sleep environment for themselves and their children, laying the foundation for a lifetime of mental wellness.