I never really hired a sleep consultant

lbenjell • August 17, 2020

So why might you want to?

Written by Lamis Benjelloun

Being pregnant 9 years ago in Morocco was very different from now.  I am not saying I lived in the stone age but there was no doulas, no lactation specialists, no antenatal classes and definitely no post natal support.  All you had was the word of those who had done it before. And they forget, otherwise none of us would have had more than one child!

So I did what I do best : I researched.  I read books, scoured the internet and found websites that told me all there was to know about my pregnancy and my baby.  I even found a chiropractor that did pre-natal work with expectant moms and had a couple of sessions.  The day I walked into the hospital to deliver my baby, I thought I was ready ! Boy was I wrong ! Everything I read so far seemed to have disappeared into thin air. And now, there was this newborn, confused baby that expected me to know how to care for him.  With a lot of help from my “village”, I was able to figure out and learn a lot of things.  But sleep just wouldn’t come together.  Up until almost the end of my maternity leave, my son was still sleeping very little at night and taking forever to fall asleep.  I needed a solution, and fast.  In comes my friend from abroad. Her son was just a year or two older than mine and in her world, they had a thing called sleep specialists!  To cut a long story short, she taught me what I needed to know about sleep, as it pertained to her son and I was able to learn from that, research more and come up with a plan for my son.  It worked! He was sleeping, I was sleeping, my husband was sleeping and we were all much happier people. 

To say that you absolutely need a sleep specialist to decipher the foreign language that is your child’s sleep would be a lie.  There is so much information out there in books, websites, applications, podcasts, guides, etc.  It is all there.  And I know it because I now spend the majority of my time reading through all of that material. It is a LOT.  But, as a sleep deprived mama or papa, do you have the time, energy and attention span to go through all of it? Probably not.  To tell you the truth, a lot of the stuff I read back then only really made sense now when I was sleeping properly in the process of getting certified.  So why should you hire a sleep consultant when I’m telling you that I was able to do it on my own sleep deprived capabilities? 

Because a sleep consultant probably has spent a lot of time researching sleep.  Many of them eat, sleep and dream SLEEP.  They are able to cater the information to your specific needs and philosophy.  If you practice attachment parenting, they will skip telling you about the extinction options.  If you are too sleep deprived to focus, they will present you the information in an easy digestible format.  And they will happily say it over and over again.  Because more likely than not, your sleep consultant is a mama who has had her fair share of sleepless nights so she knows exactly how you feel.

A sleep consultant also has a more neutral view of your situation.  They know your family on paper and so they are able to tell you the situation without adding the emotional part.  They can tell you when you should have probably given your child a chance to sleep because your presence was stimulating to them.  They can tell you that your baby obviously is sleep deprived or is actually getting too much sleep.

They are your own personal cheerleader.  They will celebrate all the little wins with you and help you see the progress you have made through the sleepless fog.  They will cheer you on when you are ready to give up and show you how strong you are.  They will even be proud of you and your accomplishments and point out how proud you should be of all the skills your child is learning and how quickly they are processing the changes.

So yes, you are absolutely capable of doing it all on your own but if you are too tired to, or too exhausted to make any changes, you don’t have to! Give a sleep consultant a call.  They may just have the perfect plan for you and your family!

By lbenjell June 10, 2025
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By Guest author: Belinda Kirk October 7, 2024
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By lbenjell May 20, 2024
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Parents may find themselves more prone to mood swings and emotional instability, impacting their ability to nurture a positive environment for their children. Strained Relationships : Sleep deprivation can strain relationships, leading to conflicts and communication breakdowns between partners. This can create additional stressors, further exacerbating mental health challenges. Sleep and Child Mental Health Just as sleep is crucial for parental well-being, it's equally essential for children's mental health and development. Adequate sleep is associated with numerous benefits for children, including: Emotional Regulation : Sufficient sleep plays a vital role in emotional regulation, helping children manage their feelings and behaviors effectively. Children who get enough sleep are often more resilient to stress and less prone to mood disturbances. Cognitive Development : Sleep is essential for cognitive development in children, as it supports learning, memory consolidation, and problem-solving skills. A well-rested child is better equipped to succeed academically and socially. Behavioral Health : Sleep disturbances in children are closely linked to behavioral problems such as hyperactivity, impulsivity, and aggression. Establishing healthy sleep habits early on can significantly reduce the risk of such issues. Reduced Risk of Mental Health Disorders : Research suggests that inadequate sleep during childhood is associated with an increased risk of mental health disorders later in life, including anxiety, depression, and ADHD. Strategies for Promoting Healthy Sleep Given the critical role of sleep in mental health for both parents and children, it's essential to prioritize sleep hygiene and establish healthy sleep habits. Here are some strategies to promote better sleep: Consistent Bedtime Routine: Establish a consistent bedtime routine for both parents and children. A calming bedtime routine signals to the body that it's time to wind down and prepare for sleep. Create a Sleep-Conducive Environment: Ensure that the bedroom environment is conducive to sleep . This includes keeping the room dark, quiet, and at a comfortable temperature. Limit Screen Time: Minimize screen time, especially before bedtime, as exposure to screens can interfere with melatonin production and disrupt sleep patterns. Encourage Physical Activity: Regular physical activity during the day can promote better sleep at night. Encourage children to engage in active play and ensure that parents incorporate exercise into their daily routine as well. Healthy Sleep Associations: Help children develop healthy sleep associations by associating bedtime with soothing activities such as reading or gentle music. Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Teach children and parents relaxation techniques such as deep breathing exercises or guided imagery to promote relaxation and stress relief before bedtime. Seek Professional Help When Needed: If sleep problems persist despite implementing these strategies, seek guidance from a healthcare professional or sleep specialist. You can always schedule a discovery call with me to discuss whether working with me will help your little one get a better night sleep. For parents and children alike, prioritizing sleep is essential for maintaining emotional well-being, cognitive function, and overall health. By recognizing the importance of sleep and implementing strategies to promote healthy sleep habits, parents can nurture a positive sleep environment for themselves and their children, laying the foundation for a lifetime of mental wellness.